RESOURCES
Support, safety, and community
Crisis contacts, education, and aftercare guidance for kink-interested adults.
Emergency & Crisis Contacts
If you or someone you know is in crisis, please reach out immediately.
- TEXT
Crisis Text Line
Text HOME to 741741
- CALL
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
Call or text 988
- CALL
RAINN Sexual Assault Hotline
1-800-656-4673
Resource Categories
Consent Education
National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF)
ncsf.org — Advocacy and education for consensual adults
Consent Academy
Resources for understanding and practising consent
Risk-Aware Practices
FetLife Safety Resources
Community safety guidelines
The New Topping Book / The New Bottoming Book
Foundational texts by Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy
Mental Health
AASECT Therapist Directory
aasect.org — Find sexuality-trained therapists
Kink Clinical Practice Guidelines
Professional resources for kink-aware therapy
Psychology Today
Filter by "kink-friendly" in therapist search
Community
FetLife
Online community for kink-interested adults
Local Munches
Safe, public meetups for newcomers — a low-pressure way to meet community
Aftercare Guidance
Aftercare refers to the care and attention given to all participants after a scene or intense experience. It helps everyone return to a grounded emotional state and strengthens trust between partners.
Physical
- Warm blankets and comfort items
- Water and light snacks
- Gentle physical touch or distance
- Rest and warmth
Emotional
- Check-ins and verbal reassurance
- Quiet decompression time
- Affirming words and presence
- Following up the next day
For Tops/Doms Too
- Aftercare goes both ways
- Top drop is real and valid
- Check in with yourself too
- Ask what you need as well
Recommended Reading
The Ethical Slut
Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy
A foundational text on non-monogamy, consent, and ethical intimacy.
Different Loving
Gloria Brame et al.
A comprehensive exploration of BDSM and kink from practitioners' perspectives.
Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns
Philip Miller & Molly Devon
A practical guide to BDSM for beginners.
Playing Well with Others
Lee Harrington & Mollena Williams
On community, consent, and kink culture.